Truths, lies, assumptions, imaginations,jokes, comments, compliments, secrets.. Is this the centre of a human's universe ?? He said so, but how could he, didn't he know, even if he didn't know he had no right to say that, did he take me for granted, am I getting too involved in him, am I over reading/over thinking, should I just let this pass, should I talk to him about it , doesn't he now care for me... Yes, that's the line most of us follow...
Happens, sometimes words just fall off. And you had no intention of saying that, in fact, you realize you have said it after hearing your own voice. Just like when a very sincere, shy student is asked to get stuff from staffroom during a lecture and on being questioned about the delay, he hears himself saying, "Ab kya bike se jaata !!" Funny ?? Trust me, happens. And these accidental slip outs break or rarely, make a person's impage. We start seeing whatever he does through the goggles of good/ bad/dumb/irritating etc etc.
I am not justifying it because if we don't judge a person even by his thoughts, it will get difficult for us to sieve the company from the crowd. It's just a thought ! I personally believe in giving people benefit of doubt rather than tarnishing their image. Because, every single beating heart out there tries to be a do- gooder. Goodness, if it can be termed so, is never going to get out of fashion. Even the cruellest people will claim to have a weak heart, even the greatest sinner explains his acts as though a victim himself. So be it..
Talking about the a sinner explaining himself, even a liar has reasons for his lies. Vague it may be for others, but people do lie for a reason, however stupid, foolish they may seem. A self imposed thought maybe, a greed, envy, immoral acts' explanations, anger, security, covering - up, whatever it is. Most of the people are driven by these reasons when they hurt others by their acts or words. And slip outs, thoughts from sub conscious one didn't know existed.. :P Try to figure out the reasons. Confrontations may help, may not help, depends on the situations. Be aware of a person's traits, habits.. but folks, no ones a complete package of negative things, stick around and encourage the small good roots.
Another common reason for discern is, trust issues ( PS: not the bf/gf trust issues here. the issues two people can have).. !! I mean sometimes people are just as naive as you are.. They don't know how to handle your storms.. Sometimes things may get exchanged in flow of moment.. Sometimes the timing may not be an apt one to share things with you... Nobody's perfect though one should watch out for regularities in these things But what's the point in sulking over things like she didn't tell me about it... Mr., if she had to, she will someday.. and if she doesn't want to, you need to stop pulling the dummy threads and start looking for decaying roots. Trust the relation you are in, the space you share. A thing missed or slipped shouldn't be the reason of a fall of long cherished friendship.
People who actually care and for whom you mean something are really really hard to find.. Once you find them, stick around.. There's no point in breaking a relation either.. And yes, let me clear, if you think sometimes shutting all doors is an option, it's gonna give both of you or either one of you a very hard time. Energy and time wasted in such melodramas can certainly be used to create memories... if not emotional ones with all of them, but fun memories for sure.. Cherish people around you, search for the good in them.. Life will get much simpler.. :) !!
PS : So much more to say on threads related to this.. Sometime for sure.. :) !!
Happens, sometimes words just fall off. And you had no intention of saying that, in fact, you realize you have said it after hearing your own voice. Just like when a very sincere, shy student is asked to get stuff from staffroom during a lecture and on being questioned about the delay, he hears himself saying, "Ab kya bike se jaata !!" Funny ?? Trust me, happens. And these accidental slip outs break or rarely, make a person's impage. We start seeing whatever he does through the goggles of good/ bad/dumb/irritating etc etc.
I am not justifying it because if we don't judge a person even by his thoughts, it will get difficult for us to sieve the company from the crowd. It's just a thought ! I personally believe in giving people benefit of doubt rather than tarnishing their image. Because, every single beating heart out there tries to be a do- gooder. Goodness, if it can be termed so, is never going to get out of fashion. Even the cruellest people will claim to have a weak heart, even the greatest sinner explains his acts as though a victim himself. So be it..
Talking about the a sinner explaining himself, even a liar has reasons for his lies. Vague it may be for others, but people do lie for a reason, however stupid, foolish they may seem. A self imposed thought maybe, a greed, envy, immoral acts' explanations, anger, security, covering - up, whatever it is. Most of the people are driven by these reasons when they hurt others by their acts or words. And slip outs, thoughts from sub conscious one didn't know existed.. :P Try to figure out the reasons. Confrontations may help, may not help, depends on the situations. Be aware of a person's traits, habits.. but folks, no ones a complete package of negative things, stick around and encourage the small good roots.
Another common reason for discern is, trust issues ( PS: not the bf/gf trust issues here. the issues two people can have).. !! I mean sometimes people are just as naive as you are.. They don't know how to handle your storms.. Sometimes things may get exchanged in flow of moment.. Sometimes the timing may not be an apt one to share things with you... Nobody's perfect though one should watch out for regularities in these things But what's the point in sulking over things like she didn't tell me about it... Mr., if she had to, she will someday.. and if she doesn't want to, you need to stop pulling the dummy threads and start looking for decaying roots. Trust the relation you are in, the space you share. A thing missed or slipped shouldn't be the reason of a fall of long cherished friendship.
People who actually care and for whom you mean something are really really hard to find.. Once you find them, stick around.. There's no point in breaking a relation either.. And yes, let me clear, if you think sometimes shutting all doors is an option, it's gonna give both of you or either one of you a very hard time. Energy and time wasted in such melodramas can certainly be used to create memories... if not emotional ones with all of them, but fun memories for sure.. Cherish people around you, search for the good in them.. Life will get much simpler.. :) !!
PS : So much more to say on threads related to this.. Sometime for sure.. :) !!
