Just for thought, folks !!

I heard somebody say, "Every person brings a new feeling to the table." And that set me wondering about how impeccably true it is. You see, we love some people, we like some people, we hate some, we are jealous of a few, we are just apathetic towards some.. But even in these broad categories, we know, we don't feel the exact same thing for two different people, even if the people in comparison are our parents, our kids, our siblings.. We can't love two people in the exact same way, neither can we hate some clan with equal intensity. Isn't it a wonderful realisation ??

Each person is made of his own habits, his own beliefs, his ideologies, his physical identity, his thoughts, so many of "his" things to be penned down. Just imagine, the number of emotions that are out there... Maybe this is the reason why people say, that life in olden days was much easier; maybe fewer complications, and better distinctions in their opinions of liking/disliking people.. As there were actually much fewer people out there... :P

This thought can open up a lot many perspectives on various things. I know, it's a very abstract idea, but then again, the most beautiful things in the world are mostly abstract works.You can think of a person as one whole idea, which can be interpreted by different people in different ways.. The thought was so illuminative, that I had to share it.. :P

And now imagine how foolish are the number of people out there doing random stuff just to prove to others that they are unique too. Only if they realise this.. Only if they knew, there's nothing right; nothing wrong.. It's all just a perspective.. That the feeling of every individual towards them is different, unique... Only if they would appreciate it, the world could be a much interesting place to live in,.. :)

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Of imperfections on a perfectionist quest.....

"Hey, look at you. How can you even think of him liking you back ? Look at those broad shoulders, they will outlong his if you continue at this pace. Look at the tyres around the belly, the fat on your back, the bulges, the trunk thighs.. Why in the world will he not friend zone you ? Who wants such a fatty as a girlfriend ? So suck it up, and put on a brave face. You don't even deserve to let him know that you love him like crazy. You just don't," she said to the mirror everyday. And when I heard about it, I just did not know what to say. My mind was torn between so many arguments. And moreover, a lot of things came back to me at that very instant.

I knew, in my heart, that this wasn't correct. But then, I also thought, whom am I kidding. No body lives in Sharayu world, full of nice, ideal things, fairy tale endings. My father always says, "In this world, don't desire something until you deserve it." It's his favourite quote. And I was thinking, am I taking this in the right context ? Does each and every person has to go through this self torture to even think of asking someone for a coffee, because, as it is, no one's perfect. I don't say there aren't any perfect people out there, there are, only things of my envy I suppose. But not the majority. So does the majority leave the chance of being with a really nice person, whom they are comfortable with, with whom they don't need to use that awkward face, and be conscious all the time, with the people who can make them laugh and forget all the worries, with whom they feel a sense of warmth spreading up their cheeks (it's a feeling completely different from a blush or embarrassment, trust me ;) and its much more fulfilling :) ), with whom they can share all their embarrassing habits, incidents, one person, if whose look says go ahead, you won't worry if the whole world's mocking you for it, waiting for people perfect on the outside with sound minds and bodies.. Do they ?? If they do, I really feel sad for them.

Such majority is surely missing out a lot in life. Yes, I know, you will ask, will you go out with a fat guy, or a dark guy or a bald guy,  whatever, I don't know what all are the rejection criterion for guys. Well, to answer that, it depends. I really don't mind the looks as long as there's this aura around them, a spark in the eye, liveliness, a confidence of them being comfortable in their own skins. I believe, its not the body, color or any other factor that makes you attractive, its your inner light, inner warmth that makes you look like the people see you. And if you actually see, as is my observation, the people who actually "know" that they look "good", are confident enough about themselves, and about everybody else, and also about accepting the person in front as he/she is.. But such kind of people are really rare in today's world of cosmetics, size zero and six pack abs.

It's like seeing in movies, reading it in novels; that goodnight kisses do take place on the doorstep after your date, the person you like is the most beautiful amongst others around, that the way they express love in movies is true and physically feasible, that the path of true love or friendship is full of thorns and sacrifices and more such blah blah.. and actually expecting them in real life. It may happen, and I would be more than happy if it happens for you, what pricks me the most is that it's expected, like a ritual or something.. I feel sad to see that these bits of imaginations of others, of brilliant directors and authors though, have largely defined our way of seeing people, our ideologies of love and unfortunately, sometimes, even the definition of friendships. In this world, full of perfectionists, I  would personally don't want somebody perfect- someone with perfect body, good intellect, good sense of humor, good wit, perfect color, perfect hair, good job, stable income, stable family... No.. I want somebody who knows he's perfect in some things, imperfect in others, accept them and also accept the fact that so is the person in front of him. It isn't very difficult if you are true to your core, if you have the ability to think. :P :D

I am not an idealist, but isn't this the most logical ?? And everyone of us has a heart, agreed, but good news people, we got brains too.. :P

PS- I could have written on and on about this. But I hope you guys get the gist... :D

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