"She is a strong woman" we often hear someone say. And what's surprising is, people say it when someone goes through a lot of pain, injustices without saying a word to anybody else except her best girlfriend of course, they say it when someone stands up and fight for the wrong things done to them, they say it when somebody doesn't fight but goes through it optimistically smiling throughout. The point is, they say it flow of words or maybe because it sounds quite a matured statement without giving it any weightage and without revealing anything or maybe, because that's all what they could do.
I wonder what being strong actually means. Once me and one of my friends' had this discussion
(yes, I have a knack of pulling people into such discussions I guess.. ;) :P ) He was totally convinced that being strong meant keeping all your worries, all your difficulties to your self, keeping a smile on your face in spite the things pricking you, tearing you down from inside. He said, " Sometimes being able to stay in your bubble without letting anyone break it is staying strong"
I don't completely disagree with it. Frankly, it depends on your personality. An introvert person would prefer crying quietly in the bed or washroom while an extrovert could go around talking to n number of people repeating the same boulevard until they finally feel it lifting off their chest. I believe that being strong is not only being able to face the situation, but being able to get out of it with as much dignity as possible. You face it, you fight it, you wrestle with it, you ignore it, you find another option to it, do whatever you want, point is, it should stop bothering you and your decisions. (But please please do not forget what it taught you while making the decision :P )
And just until recent, I would prefer not bothering people or even my closet friends with my problems. But once I found friends who would dig me up until I got it out, I knew what a luxury that was. And now-a-days I myself, sooner or later atleast talk to them about every small thing that, forget hurts, even irritates me. It helps to clear my head, to think about something that's really important at that moment. But not everyone's lucky to be able to grant that trust on others. Or sometimes situations demand that. You cannot let the name, reputation be at stake for a small thing which actually hurt you a lot or somethings are just not easy to share. All I suggest is try and find atleast one, one such person in front of whom you can pour your heart out. Sometimes small things can be given a time test by watching a nice movie or getting addicted to a series for sometime or by staying in nice social circle with people of good humour. But somethings just need a lot more than that.
I am no one to suggest anyone anything, but what I think is, don't be afraid to ask for help if you are going through a rough patch. And don't be afraid to genuinely reach out to someone you feel is in some kind of mess. Go ahead, trust your instincts and embrace your emotions. Remember, we all had a guiding voice in our head who would tell us what to do in our childhood. As we grew, we stopped paying attention to it. It could be anything, you talking to sun, moon, birds, you having some weird coins helping you choose.. anything. Some of us maybe fortunate enough to remember something vaguely about it. Get that voice back in your life. Start trusting yourselves again, which is achievable only if you learn to embrace your emotions. Don't be afraid to love recklessly, but that doesn't go for hate or anger. They do more harm to yourselves than others.
Ah well well... Too sermonic !! >:O I hate myself when I get myself in such mood. Time to watch F.R.I.E.N.D.S I guess. Next time on I will watch it before writing :P And yes, one last thing, whatever you do, enjoy it and take its responsibility, even if it was bad, accept it. And move on in whatever way you are comfortable. :)
I wonder what being strong actually means. Once me and one of my friends' had this discussion
(yes, I have a knack of pulling people into such discussions I guess.. ;) :P ) He was totally convinced that being strong meant keeping all your worries, all your difficulties to your self, keeping a smile on your face in spite the things pricking you, tearing you down from inside. He said, " Sometimes being able to stay in your bubble without letting anyone break it is staying strong"
I don't completely disagree with it. Frankly, it depends on your personality. An introvert person would prefer crying quietly in the bed or washroom while an extrovert could go around talking to n number of people repeating the same boulevard until they finally feel it lifting off their chest. I believe that being strong is not only being able to face the situation, but being able to get out of it with as much dignity as possible. You face it, you fight it, you wrestle with it, you ignore it, you find another option to it, do whatever you want, point is, it should stop bothering you and your decisions. (But please please do not forget what it taught you while making the decision :P )
And just until recent, I would prefer not bothering people or even my closet friends with my problems. But once I found friends who would dig me up until I got it out, I knew what a luxury that was. And now-a-days I myself, sooner or later atleast talk to them about every small thing that, forget hurts, even irritates me. It helps to clear my head, to think about something that's really important at that moment. But not everyone's lucky to be able to grant that trust on others. Or sometimes situations demand that. You cannot let the name, reputation be at stake for a small thing which actually hurt you a lot or somethings are just not easy to share. All I suggest is try and find atleast one, one such person in front of whom you can pour your heart out. Sometimes small things can be given a time test by watching a nice movie or getting addicted to a series for sometime or by staying in nice social circle with people of good humour. But somethings just need a lot more than that.
I am no one to suggest anyone anything, but what I think is, don't be afraid to ask for help if you are going through a rough patch. And don't be afraid to genuinely reach out to someone you feel is in some kind of mess. Go ahead, trust your instincts and embrace your emotions. Remember, we all had a guiding voice in our head who would tell us what to do in our childhood. As we grew, we stopped paying attention to it. It could be anything, you talking to sun, moon, birds, you having some weird coins helping you choose.. anything. Some of us maybe fortunate enough to remember something vaguely about it. Get that voice back in your life. Start trusting yourselves again, which is achievable only if you learn to embrace your emotions. Don't be afraid to love recklessly, but that doesn't go for hate or anger. They do more harm to yourselves than others.
Ah well well... Too sermonic !! >:O I hate myself when I get myself in such mood. Time to watch F.R.I.E.N.D.S I guess. Next time on I will watch it before writing :P And yes, one last thing, whatever you do, enjoy it and take its responsibility, even if it was bad, accept it. And move on in whatever way you are comfortable. :)
